Hedge maze

How to retrain negative thoughts (so you can keep creating awesome stuff)

Julia Katsivo Carter
2 min readJan 13, 2022


Me: Why am I even reading this?
Mind: Because you clicked on it
Me: Oh yeah. Let’s change that.

What you focus on, you get more. In NLP, what you think about most often, you attract into your reality.

If you look at any of my celebration posts, there’s always an “I used to dream about this….”

It’s not a coincidence.

Now, there was work involved. The path from Dream to Reality = Hard Work, and that’s where lots usually fall off — the making it happen part.

Hard work looks different for where you are and what you’re trying to do. Inner work is hard (mindset). Outer work is hard (strategy). New things are hard. Overcoming is hard. Any way you cut it, there’s a hard in there.

It’s because it is much easier to think the same sorry thoughts, feel the same sorry feelings, and partake in the same sorry actions. It is pure comfort as much as it hurts. I speak as one whose been stuck in various places over my life (still stuck in some). The fastest indicator of being stuck is starting or finishing a sentence with, “Yeah, But….”

The power to change the channel is yours. I’m not saying it’s easy or that you’ll know what to do. I am saying it is yours and possible, and that’s the start.

The recognition of the same old, same old, a disdain for it, and the desire for different activate this process.

Sometimes it takes a day, sometimes a few years, and sometimes a decade or even longer (personal experience). Doesn’t matter. When you live differently, you don’t focus on time the way you used to. Time and energy expand to meet your needs.

Also, the journey is very humbling and often, it doesn’t matter how long you took to get there; you won’t always feel ready for everything you get. You realize there’s still growing to do, much more to master and become. It’s a journey for a reason, not a destination.

Thoughts are a journey, not a destination. You can change your mind at any time about the direction you’re taking. You can also stay on it intentionally. All up to you and what you decide.



Julia Katsivo Carter

Founder of Successful & Smart Business Coaching. Holistic approach business coach for women. Bubbly, calm. Yup.